I have seen numerous articles and Facebook posts about the Santa Barbara Shooter, many of them linking him to Men’s Right’s Activism (MUA) and Pick Up Artists (PUA). In fact many of my friends who are Pagans, Occultists, or Witches have expressed relief that this will bring attention to those two groups.
I have something to say about this connection, but first wanted to give a brief statement about MRA and PUA separately.
I was blissfully unaware of MRA’s until a few years ago. On the surface this seems like a good idea right? I mean, there are areas that men should be looking at insuring rights for. In a world where there are an increasing amount of Dad’s who do primary care for the children, custody of children after divorce is an area that comes to mind. Men get targeted disproportionately by law enforcement for drug crimes. In jobs that deal with children, men often get viewed as more likely to molest despite the large numbers of women now getting caught for doing just that – who receive much lighter sentences when they are convicted. Men who suffer domestic abuse and cannot physically defend themselves without instantly being seen as the abuser. Men falsely accused of rape, or corced into paternity. These things do happen.
Are Mens Rights groups about any of this? No.
Turns out Men’s Right’s Activists are much more about hating women than they are about advocating for themselves. You don’t hear about much about Men at all in fact. You hear a lot about how women should know their place. You hear about “them” taking “our” jobs. You hear a lot about “legitimate rape”, and how rape of drunk or drugged or provocatively dressed, or women who change their mind, or women who wont put out, is not really rape*
If you do hear about these issues, you hear about them in a sort of bizarro reversal. How domestic abuse of men is equal to or even worse than that of women. How rape of men by women is the real scourge of society, both of which is just patently false. You hear about how men are being discriminated against in the workplace by affirmative action – despite all numbers and studies showing that women are still far from even getting a fair shake.
In short, I think these guys are assholes. Fighting for your own rights is great. Being threatened by someone else fighting successfully for theirs is not, and it sure ain’t manly.
Though I was married long before “The Game” was published I wrote a bit about Pick Up Artists in The Sorcerers Secrets. Since then I have gotten to know a few, have done some work for a few, and even have been a consultant for a PUA school that wanted to incorporate my methods.
In general I find that most PUA’s fall into one of two categories:
1. Guys that believe men and women are playing a game together, and who would like to learn to play better.
2. Guys that believe men are playing a game where women are the targets.
Guys in the former camp tend to veer away from the creepy NLP, Hypnosis, and Negging garbage; focusing more on “inner game”. These are methods to make yourself more confident, overcome fear of rejection, change your appearance a bit, and generally give a shit a bout yourself. I have seen some PUA’s do more serious spiritual work than a lot of occultist. I guess the potential to get laid is a good motivator.
Other guys that view women as targets to be manipulated are a shame, but really its nothing new. These days these guys meet up in special chatrooms and clubs to discuss this Alpha Male anti-female shite, 75 years ago they didn’t have to because society itself was the chatroom, and the club was pretty much everybody. I would like to see the marginalization of creeps as being a sign of society moving in the right direction.
Ok, with that out of the way all I really wanted to say about the connetion with the Santa Barbara Shooting is this: MRA’s, PUA’s, and any other group you hate is not to blame.
Dungeons and Dragons were not to blame for Christopher Pritchard’s actions.
Marylin Manson and Video Games were not to blame for Eric Harris’s and Dylan Klebold’s actions.
The OTO and Thelema were not to blame for Matthew Murray’s actions.
Satanism and Witchcraft are not to blame for Miranda Barbour’s actions.
As people into occultism, Witchcraft, Magic, etc we often find ourselves defending our paths and beliefs when others who self-identify the same way we do, wind up committing heinous and criminal acts.
All I am saying is that if you don’t like to be treated like you are responsible for encouraging murder then don’t treat others like that. No matter how reprehensible or distasteful I find MRA’s and some PUA’s, I have yet to meet one that encouraged murder or anything close to it.
Anyway, that’s it.
In case there is some confusion about this: if either party is passed out or near passed out or so out of it that they cannot clearly give consent, its rape. If someone invited you to their bedroom, initiates sex, but after five mintes says “NO, I CHANGED MY MIND, GET OFF ME” and you don’t get off of them – its rape. Ok? Good. Sex without consent is rape. Consent can be withdrawn.